“One and the Same is a fresh alternative to traditional how-to guidebooks for parents expecting two or more.”
—Christina Tinglof
- Click to buy from:
-
-
-
Jan 2010
Jennifer Nevadomski has a fun,,poignant blog about her four children and the one she tragically lost....She also has a business you should check out http://www.nevaland.com/ with great ideas for parents and parties. Her question was about how twins and the "other" sibling(s) -- she's right that the sibling can feel like the third wheel because the twinship can be so powerful and primary. In my book, I include a candid interview with my younger brother, David, (page 101) and he was so wonderfully honest about what it was like being the odd man out. The truth is that Robin and I love David so much, but the closeness is hard to compare, and that can be deflating or frustrating for David at times. My advice would be to make sure that each twin hangs out with the sibling separately, early on in their childhoods: make sure to help created separate memories or rituals, however small, where the sibling had each twin to himself (or herself) so that a distinct relationship is forged and solid. Even when twins have tensions or battles, the twinship usually is overpowers any other relationship in the family -- even often the parent-child bond -- and so it's crucial to keep an eye on the non-twins in the family to make sure they're in the spotlight too.
- Category:
